Boundaries & abuse


Dear all

As you can imagine, many people ask me what to do when enduring abuse in their intimate relationships friendships, a workplace or family situation. Examples abound. 

Rarely however, do people realise that if one is the victim of abuse, very often (but not 100% always) one is also likely acting out of an abuse space too ... without even realising it.

The two are actually locked together. On the majority of occasions, it is impossible to be abused unless you are engaged in some type of abusive behaviour yourself. And the opposite is also true. If you abuse, albeit innocently and unconsciously, more likely than not, you are also the victim of abuse - past, present or future.

In the therapy world, there are many excellent models and approaches for how to combat abuse with stronger boundaries; the recovery of self esteem; specialised emotional support; and behaviour remodelling. The key in general, usually involves changing behaviour and facing fear / the reasons for the resistance around doing so.

But there has to be something else for these strategies to sustain. Abuse and being a victim of it both exist at a certain frequency. One must operate out of a completely different space to that frequency. in the first place for any strategies to succeed. Otherwise any changes will not hold power or even worse, the person will free themselves from one form of abuse, then simply re-entangle with another.

Abuse is so deeply intertwined with modern living, it can be very hard to tell the two apart. Of course, it is easy to say that an abuse-free existence is where one feels no pressure to be a certain way; where one never screams at someone else to get their point across; or where there is an absence of physical intimidation. We all know how abuse looks. But these days, what is abuse is often schmoozed as being cool or celebrated and marketed in the media. And what is not abuse is mistaken for being controversial, troublemaking, and even illegal. 

The definitions have become very blurred, because of course, they are merely definitions. The vocabulary is not inclusive of the actual vibration of what it is addressing.

Today’s recording reinstates the pure space outside of the loop of both abuser and victim - strengthening it and transmuting the dissonance that threatens it. It also drives in each of the characteristics of the proper boundaries you will have for yourself ... minus any seen or unseen hindrances you may have going on in your own personal field. This then automatically re-shapes your behaviour - diminishing the possibility of any physical, emotional, mental or spiritual soil in which abuse takes root.

I am always purifying. My tracks take any personal purification deeper.

Play while you meditate, do things, lie in the bath … until all the words go in without losing awareness or falling asleep. Listen for yourself or for someone else, naming them silently within at the beginning. You can also play the recording with the sound turned down in the background, while you are busy or sleeping.

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Is the intensity of thought during this Immersion - me identifying with the worst of me as it leaves?

This is an excellent question. It will be fully answered in the recording attached to the Immersion Support Group, but it is also worth attention here too.

When thought intensifies it is because a high vibration is also operating, which is forcing that interference out to the surface. It is nothing to worry about. Just relax.

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